Monday, 06 July 2009

• Getting into a relationship when your life isn't on track.

  When it comes to relationships, I noticed that a lot of people tend to get into them when their lives aren't on track. I'm not saying that people shouldn't or don't deserve to get into relationships if their lives aren't on track. Lots of people don't have their lives on track. Sometimes we make pit stops or take detours.
  
  What exactly is my definition of having your life on track? To me and maybe other people my age, I would say it's mainly going to school [and actually doing well], going to work, and taking care of family. My social life is just a bonus I get when I have time.
  
  One of the biggest downsides to getting into a relationship when your life isn't on track is that if you have a horrible break up with your significant other, it might be more difficult to recover. I've seen friends and family practically lose their minds because of this. I've heard things like, "He/she is all I had" or "Without him/her I'm nothing." In some of the worst case scenarios, I've come across people who thought about committing suicide.
  
  When people don't have their lives on track and have a horrible break up with their significant other, they might not have much to fall back onto or cushion the blow. If you're not going to school [or not doing well], don't work, or aren't doing anything productive and then you go through a break up... what exactly is going to help ease the pain or get your mind off things? Most of us have people to turn to during times like this, but you can't rely on them all the time. The people you turn to can only be there for you for so long. At some point, you're going to have to do some self-healing.
  
  Self-healing is so much harder when you don't have things to keep you busy or keep your mind off things. On top of that, if other things in your life aren't going very well, you might already be depressed and could possibly become more depressed.
  
  If you get into a relationship when your life isn't on track, there's always a chance that you'll mess up your significant other. I've seen relationships where one partner was an absolute loser [didn't go to school, didn't work, did drugs all the time, etc] and ended up bringing their significant other down to his/her level.
  
  Even though getting into a relationship when your life isn't on track could turn out bad, sometimes people get lucky and a relationship helps them gain motivation to get their lives back on track.
  
  Eh, I wasn't going to blog about this, but a lot of people have been talking to me about their relationship problems and break up situations so I started noticing a trend. I needed to type this stuff out so it could get out of my head.
  

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